We don't have to wear designer clothes or a top hat or to vote Tory or to be rich to be a Gentleman - it's ABOUT YOU and YOUR ATTITUDE to LIFE. Years ago on the South coast of England I met a man. He was Jewish and looked like Fagen. He lived in an
old house in total squaller since the death of his parents. He was to all intents and purpose like a Tramp. However this man wore clothes (now almost worn out and unwashed) like a Gentleman (buttoned fly, button braces,Crombie coat etc..). He was so polite,
courteous and in a strange way a Gentleman. The impression this man left on me has been lasting. Yes he was now dirty and unkept but that couldn't cover up some essential 'Gentlemanly' qualities.
The point I am making is that being a Gentleman has more
to do with an attitude, a kind of impression that is real and geniune. Look for instance at the late David Niven, no matter how he was dressed he was a Gentleman - it just shone through. Another example was the late Fred Astaire.
conclusion I have come to is simple. That being a Gentleman has to do with an inward attitude and approach to life and others, especially the opposite sex. This attitude is usually accompanied by the appropriate dress, although that is desired it is not essemtial
- for instance my friend in Brighton or David Niven wearing swimming shorts, the 'Gentlemaness' remains in evidence!